Liz Buchanan BVSc MRCVS
Keymaster
Hello and Im so sorry to hear that you are in this unhappy place. Nearly 19 years is an impressive age for a cat; if everything could be treated and revert to normal again, there realistically might not be a long life expectancy from here; most vets have occasionally seen a cat in the low 20s and very few cats are thought to have reached 25. Brain surgery is a huge undertaking, both financially and physically, with a huge margin for error. As a non- specialist vet I wouldn't consider performing it, but if an experienced specialist somewhere is prepared to offer the surgery in a cat of this age and fitness, they should give you a worst case and best case scenario of what they expect to happen afterwards. This is not a decision that I can make for you. From the balance of factors that you have described in a cat I loved very much, I suspect that I wouldn't be looking at radical surgery. I might be taking one day at a time, trying to provide the best possible quality of life. We usually counsel owners in advance to discuss what an acceptable quality of life looks like - at what point they would want to stop treatment and put the pet to sleep - in order that they recognise it when this situation arrives. Otherwise we tend to become acclimatised to how our pet is; to see it as the new 'normal,' even when quality of life is very low. End of life decisions are difficult, because you love your cat! There is no definite 'right time' because everyone has a different idea of what that looks like; secondly because of the high emotion involved. Nobody wants to say goodbye to their cat; it is always easier to put the decision off, to say 'but I don't know yet!' or to wait for the next thing, than it is to make it. But please, don't beat yourself up; a hesitancy to say goodbye to someone you love, is a normal, human reaction to greif and greif is not a weakness. When the time comes and it is over, a lot of people feel better; the anticipation can be worse than the event itself. There is a charity, the Ralph Site, you can access online who may be able to offer you more advice or even point you in the direction of counselling. Whatever you decide and whenever you decide it, we wish you and your girl all the best.
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